Counseling For Happiness

Happiness: Happiness In Life

What’s happiness? Happiness is versatile. Happiness is deep; happiness is shallow. However, happiness is essential. Let us discuss happiness, what happiness is, the hows of happiness, and why choose happiness.

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Life is dull without happiness. Let us study happiness, what happiness is, the hows of happiness, and why choose happiness.

Happiness

The Amazing Feeling Of Seeing Others Happy

I used to think that digital marketing was a female-dominated area. However, I eventually realized that the men behind those ideas were merely banking because women were far more likable than men in general (does this bring joy to women?!).

I learned all about this from my twin sister, who decided to break the stereotype and start her digital marketing firm. Of course, it raised eyebrows in our family, but our parents supported her as much as they supported my decision to change my career from medicine to counseling a few years back.

I should say that my sister’s business took off smoother than anyone expected. Then, a boyfriend came.

Sister’s Happiness

My twin sister called me early in the morning one day, sounding extremely giggly. She couldn’t contain her excitement. She said that she found the love of her life. I heard that line way too much since our teenage years, so I told her to hold her horses and leave at least 1% of herself to herself just if this golden guy turned out to be brass like the others.

“Sis, I hear you, but believe me when I say this is the one for me,” my sister insisted. “ Her happiness was almost annoying!

I wanted to point out to my sister that the last question made her entire statement less believable, but as her family, I was expected to give her new beau the benefit of the doubt. “All right,” I relented. “Just promise me you won’t forget what I said about keeping 1% of yourself.”

I knew I had no right to stop her from herself being happy and contented but I was actually scared of that – it was as if nothing could go wrong.

I knew I had no right to stop her from herself finding happiness and contented but I was actually scared of that - it was as if nothing could go wrong.
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But There’s A Big Hurdle

Everything was excellent in my sister’s relationship – her happiness was showing – until they thought of bidding for the same project in Manhattan. When I asked my sister about it, she said that it was all out of pure fun. “Whichever company wins, we will be happy for each other. Who knows, perhaps we will do a merger if we end up getting married,” my sister explained, giggling.

Of course, I decided not to worry about it. For one, it was not my place to dictate how my sister should run her relationships. Secondly, I knew how competitive she could be. I didn’t know that the happiness would eventually subside.

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And as if I was a fortune teller, I saw my sister’s latest ad on a massive digital billboard on the freeway one day (another reason for me being happy). I called my sister to congratulate her on her victory, but I was answered with sobbing. I realized then that my happy feelings had been replaced by frustration.

No Happiness

Even without my sister confirming it, I already expected the worse. Then, once she said that her boyfriend broke up with her when he learned about his company’s loss, I was no longer surprised.

Happiness For Others

How To Feel Content When Others Win

My sister’s relationship (and joy) was a lost cause at that point, but if you want to know how to be happy when others win in life, you should:

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  • Avoid making comparisons between others and yourself. Everyone has a different winning strategy, just as everyone has different measurements of contentment.
  • Be grateful for the other wins you have experienced. You may have lost now, but you have probably won a lot before, too.
  • Look up to the winning individuals instead of getting jealous of them. They are doing something amazing, and you should learn how they did that.

Insights And Takeaway

My twin sister learned an incredible lesson after dating a jealous man. But even if you do not get romantically involved with them, you should be aware that you’ll come across many jealous people in your life. In that case, hold your head up, offer some tips on how to be happy if they are open to it, and enjoy your wins and happiness because you deserve them.

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